遇到这样的老师怎么办？

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发信人: actuo (actuo), 信区: Parenting
标  题: 遇到这样的老师怎么办？
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Thu Sep 17 02:41:56 2015, 美东)

儿子刚上K班一个月，今天接到老师一个措辞严厉的邮件的信，还抄送给校长了，看了
以后一肚火，请大家支招。

I wanted to touch base with you in regards to your son's behavior yesterday.
Joseph got upset when he saw his mom before the Study Trip and was told that
he was going in someone's car for the Library Study Trip.  He began hitting
his mom multiple times, would not use his words and cried.  I then told the
driver, Mr. Ramirez, that Joseph would be going alone with his mother.

When we got back to the school, we had about 10 minutes left and Joseph
erased my daily agenda on the teacher's white board.  The students are not
allowed to touch the teachers' white boards without permission because there
are important things written on the board for lessons throughout the day
and week.  I told Joseph right away never to erase my agenda. 

Unfortunately, we cannot have parents volunteer when his/her child is not
following our school rules and our "Essential Agreements".  I communicated
this information to both Joseph and mom yesterday.  I will give Joseph one
more try next Tuesday.  His behavior is much worse in the presence of mom.

Today when we were getting ready for snack and lining up, Joseph ran into
the middle of the line cutting about five other students and then shoved all
of them together.  They all got hurt and there were tears.  As a
consequence, Joseph ate his snack alone and then sat out for recess.

Please discuss "loving hands" at home tonight with Joseph.  They are not for
hurting his mother, which I have observed many times this year when Joseph
gets frustrated.  He hits her in front of everyone.  It scares the other
children because we are taught to love our parents not hurt them.  I take
this very seriously and am hoping this behavior ceases.

几点解释：班上就儿子一个Asian，老师是新来，但称有多年教学经验。平时总板着脸
，和她说话也爱理不理的。
1.关于hit mom.  儿子粘妈妈，平时兴奋或不高兴都会粘着妈妈，身体扭来扭去，手脚
也一起甩来甩去，就是那不够大方放不开的感觉。老师想当然就认为这是hit, 关键还
说multiple times。 总共开学才4周，他妈也只当过二次room mother.
2.erase white board. 不知道老师有没有过向孩子们强调不准擦她的黑板，即使说过
，小孩也可能会忘记。而且儿子平时在家帮妈妈擦白板还会得到夸奖。还当着他妈妈的
面训了他好几分钟，还对孩子说如果这样就不让妈妈到教室做volunteer.好像有点威胁
小孩。
3.snack time 我们不在也不知道具体情况。儿子自己说他们其实没有line up，都是几
个人，几个人团在一起，他只是冲过去一起玩而已。不过老师的话看上去有点夸张。

请大家支支招，如何处理此事啊。怕处理不好，对儿子有影响啊。
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